EP: 67 Your child does not need to learn independence. You do!

We’ve been told independence is the goal — but what if that idea is backwards? In today’s tender and truth-packed episode, Sharanya challenges the narrative that babies need to be "trained" to be independent. From sleep struggles to clingy days, we unpack how our discomfort with closeness often stems from unhealed parts of us — not from a problem with our child.

You’ll learn: Why true independence grows from connection, not control

How our childhood wounds influence our parenting reactions What responsive, trauma-informed sleep coaching actually looks like

The real goal of early parenting: emotional safety, not performance

How to gently reparent yourself while parenting your little one

🔥 Key Takeaways Babies don’t become independent by being pushed away — they separate confidently when they feel secure. Sleep coaching can be gentle, responsive, and rooted in connection-first values. If it feels overwhelming to meet your baby’s needs, ask: “Is this about them — or me?” You don’t need to rush milestones. You need to trust the unfolding — for both you and your child. Reparenting yourself is the secret work behind raising emotionally resilient kids.

💬 Notable Quotes "Independence isn’t taught by force. It’s built on trust. And trust is built through connection." "That’s not your baby being too clingy — that’s your childhood asking to be healed." "It’s always connection first before any kind of behaviour change."

💛 Let’s Work Together If you’re in the messy, beautiful season of early parenting and want to raise secure, happy kids without losing yourself (or your marriage) in the process — let’s connect.

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