EP 80: Conversations, Sex & Timing: The Missing Piece in Modern Marriages

Episode Summary: Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t love each other — they struggle because they keep missing each other. The truth is, timing is everything in marriage. In this episode, I unpack why women often bring up important conversations when their husbands aren’t mentally ready, and why men often initiate intimacy without realizing their wives aren’t emotionally prepared. Both sides end up feeling frustrated, unseen, and rejected.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The neuroscience of timing: why your partner literally cannot engage when stressed or shut down. How mismatched “arousal states” create conflict in both communication and intimacy. Practical tools to stop “pouncing” and start connecting (pre-framing, micro-moments, invitations vs demands). Why mind-reading is a marriage killer, and how system-building keeps couples aligned. Why Listen: If you’ve ever felt like your spouse doesn’t hear you… or like intimacy feels like another fight waiting to happen… this episode will show you the science and strategies to finally get through to each other.

About Me: I’m Sharanya V, I help exhausted couples with young kids move from daily resentment to deep connection. Follow me on Instagram @sharanyav.revivethrive and DM me the word REVIVE if you’re ready to transform your marriage.